I am not looking forward to all the family plus the sil in all her drama queen regalia. She is completely focused on herself, completely selfish, and has, many times in the past, completely subverted family gatherings into her own show. For every story or anecdote someone has, she has one better (or worse, so much horribly worse than anything you ever had). She spends her time trying to take my extended family members and make them her brainwashed minions, by being so sticky nice, but bad-mouthing me, I've noticed, whenever convenient. The worst I did was to warn my cousin's wife that the sil'sstories should be taken with a grain of salt. I could have said that she is a complete and total liar, but I didn't. I don't know how to tell anyone tha, but I know my mother and my aunt will have some chat time, and I really hope that my brother's confession (that he feels the sil lies all the time about everything, and that he told her he doesn't trust her at all...) is also brought up. I'm just so sick of her being in our group. She is not family to me. She's a parasite. And they're bringing another child into a relationship that is on the brink of self-destruction.
My mother recently said she wishes that my brother had never married her. For my mom to say that is pretty significant (while I say I wish he'd never met her), since my mom is super into "love each other", being beatific and all the stuff that goes with doing the end of Christendom that is about what Jesus was about - love and forgiveness. But it's true. If my brother had known what was coming, he would not have done it. I still can't believe he deluded himself for so long. It was easier for the rest of us, not living in the same room as her, but my hubby and I still knew much earlier that she was poison. Now my brother is stuck, unless he can do something to set himself up being the better option as a custodial parent. It's sad to look at it that way, but I'd rather he go through the misery of divorcing the nut than spend the rest of his life being miserable in his relationship. He'll suffer, the (shudder) children will suffer...and she'll be reigning supreme as the psycho in residence.
Well, the only reason I'm bitching here again is because I've been bottling up my unhappiness again, and it's never good, because I find myself crying at inopportune times. It's been really eating at me with all this family arriving soon as well. I mean, my parents each only have one sibling, one living all the way out west, the other out of the country. I never had loads of family around growing up. It was rare to see the ones who lived out of country, and we traveled west every other year to see the others. Sometimes I was a little jealous of the kids that had masses of cousins, and other relaitves around...but that's my issue, obviously. The sil, on the other hand, has a father with six siblings, and her mother's sib, all within just a few minutes of each other, really. She's glutted with family, family she seems to mostly like, so why doesn't she plague them more? She is happy to invite them all to my nephew's birthday, so that they get two truckloads of gifts for him every year (she is all about getting prezzies - she went so far, on her own birthday, to demand that her friends give her presents via a myspace bulletin - ftw???), but maybe they can't stand her, I don't know.
Anyway...enough ranting for now. I feel marginally better after a little splenation. Now to see about loading photoshop onto this rig so I can play with pictures and make art. Maybe. I want coffee!!!